May you be seen, heard, and valued.✨

I attended this parenting conference in my daughter’s school and although I just made it to the Q and A, I cannot deny I learned what I will keep for life. Whatever the situation is our children need to be seen, heard, and valued. 

But I guess I’m the “child” in some relationships with peers, colleagues, and friends. I want to be seen, heard, and valued. And when I’m not, I feel frustrated, and mad. For if not mad, I’ll be lonely, depressed, and worthless. What a wretched lie!

God sees, hears, and values us. Many friends, and other colleagues see, hear, and value us. Not that we know all the answers or are filled with wisdom. Not that we are productive and have many accomplishments. Not that we are good and beautiful. We are seen, heard, and valued, because we are simply loved and accepted. 

So if you feel any less, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and show yourself again. Speak. Know you matter. 

And if you are in the giving end: acknowledge, listen, and say thank you— if only for the support or effort. Give a little pat on the back. Give a hug. Look, listen, and value. 

It will do them good. It will make you better. 

— Ninang

“for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” (2 Timothy 1:7)

“In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.” (1 John 4:10)

“A friend loves at all times,
and a brother is born for adversity.” (Proverbs 17:17)